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But I don't think that it's a stinky job. The thing is they need to earn more money, they have families to support, they have hopes on their children, they have their own dreams about life and need better jobs to make all of them come true. But still they are pushing this button, being in the same place, where they were 20+ years back, disappointed. How sad?

Then why can't they move out, shift their job for a better one? What made them stuck here?

It's friction. By definition, it's the force resisting the motion of two solid surfaces in contact. It resists us, when we try to move away from our current situation. It resides inside, holding us back from moving out.

You want to change, change your life. but you find difficulties always. Or else can't change it in the way want it to be. Some reasons will provide excuses to hide you from yourself. And also it will make you procrastinate.

Just imagine a world without this frictional force. Everything is done, every dream is achieved. People are bored. No workers, only the bosses. The world would be a complicated place and a mess. So the nature, the controller of life, made 'friction' to differentiate one from another and to make processes bit more interesting.

But always this friction adds color to life. Think about a river which flows calmly across a flat land. It flows, no changes. People will love to see a waterfall rather than this. It falls across the rough slope, where lots of rocks stand in its way. It creates enchanting scene, marking its victory, overcoming all the resistance. Friction ends up being the beauty of it. 

In our lives, it exists in different forms and continuing to back us off,when we struggle with something new.

If you are a student, you'll need to study of the exam that is drawing closer. You'll make plans, schedules to do revision and past papers. But you'll feel sleepy or else you'll see that it's too hot or cold to study. That's how friction slows you down from moving out to a new set of habits.

If you are a blogger, you'll need to lift up your blog with number of readers, which is rocketing high. So after reading this and that about blogging at problogger, copyblogger or somewhere else, you'll come up with dozens of things you need to be doing. You'll notice that you don't have that much of time, though you want to read a lot and do those dozens of thing, you've learnt newly. Or maybe you'll think of starting them from next month, when you are not busy this much. but by that time, your original kick will be dead, ensuring you ain't moving nowhere. 

How are you going to sail away from these tides, in order to get the life you want? I've tried these two simple methods.

Have you ever tried pushing a stalled car? Initially we have to push it with gritted teeth since the ground under the wheels trying its' best to avoid it from moving. But after that it starts moving on the ground smoother than it did in the starting point. Frictional force reduces, as the wheels start rotating against the resisting force. This can be done easier by pushing hard at once in the beginning. The big resistance which comes first can be exceeded in that way.

So we can do the same with our plans. The first day of your plan, or the first try that you are going to give must be done extremely well. It's better to do it in a way that exceeds the energy limit that you've planned to put on it. If it is 10 push-ups are which that is planned, try 12 or 13 in the first day. 

Move out loud from the high frictional zone from that way.

Use lubricants to avoid the friction. How would you do that? What about breaking down your plan into few small pieces? Then give yourself a little reward as you complete those tasks one by one. It will push you forward, even without knowing.

If you are a student, you can take a little break after implementing the new plans on the first day. You can watch a movie or something. 

Do whatever the thing you are afraid to do, or reluctant to do.  And reward yourself for it. You'll find it's easy to overcome the force against you.

When I was thinking about how to end this up, suddenly i saw a boy, with a thread in hand, loosening it and pulling it back again. In the end of the thread, there's a kite, a big nice kite, rising high and high, against the wind. Kite was fighting the wind that was resisting it. And it was showing off its pride, by soaring high, against the force resisted it. Why shouldn't we? 

The male bird selects a tree in a safe ground, which means mire, out of humans and other animals reach. Then he brings straws, strings and grass from its beak, which he uses as needle to weave them up to build the nest.

Nest is done finally. It hangs from a tiny, swinging but strong twig, with an opening from the bottom part, which brings extra protection to the nest. 

Now he is ready to brag about his new property with his spouse, because its time to mate. 

But the most interesting thing is, his family doesn't have to live in the dark, though they do not have electricity. Weaver bird is smart enough to get it done by fireflies. He catches fireflies, brings them in and sticks them to the walls of the nest, where they spend rest of their lives as light bulbs.

This incident can be seen among people also. If you are inquisitive enough, you'll see the weaver birds, who are smart, determined, strong willed and hard working, in this society. They dream, they plan, and start getting there, step by step, striving to bring their dreams into life.

Most of them are entrepreneurs. They start businesses and manage to get involve people, who are talented in handling certain processes, fireflies.

Henry Ford, the founder of Ford Motor Company, is one of the well known weaver bird type person, which history can't forget.

Once, press mentioned that he was a fool and he sued against the press, claiming for a big compensation. He didn't have much of a  school education, no bachelors or masters degree. At the court case, lawyers from the press, asked him few basic questions about American history, geography and stuff like that, where he almost proved that Press was right and then it happened suddenly.

He proved that he was a weaver bird. At the end of those questions, he raised his brave voice.

He told, though he never knew the answers for those questions, by a single clap of his palms, he could summon people, not only who can answer those questions but also who are capable of answering to questions that, that lawyers didn't have a knowledge to ask even.

He got millions of dollars from the press as his compensation.

That story explains fireflies also. They don't like to work by themselves. They want someone else to boss them around. Because they do not like to take much troubles and pressures.They want to feel secured under someone else's wind.

So there are two paths to follow. We can either use our talents and be self employed or work for someone else and get paid. Though the first one is tougher, society never lacks risk takers and challenge lovers.

photo is by : Lip Kee