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My PC is a pretty old one.When few tabs are open in my browser and I'm shifting between them it goes frozen and I used to say that bad four letter word.It happens frequently when I read some blogs at night and it drives away my happy thoughts like a surge but couldn't help it.couldn't afford for a proper upgrade too.And yesterday when I said this with a friend he asked me does it remain frozen that I have to restart when it happens every time.And I said "No". "Oh! Not that bad." That's his words.And I was thinking to my self " yes of course.Not that bad."At least I do not have to restart it.do I ?"

So now when this happens I simply let it go saying "Not that bad".Yeah.It doesn't speed up my machine.But it save peace in my mind.

We come across lots of times like this in our day to day life which irritates us.Like when a stone thrown into a clear,still stream, it crashes the peace of our mind.Does it do any better? Absolutely not.So we need to find a way out of this.

Not that bad.

One thing we can do is the thing my friend said."Oh! not that bad". Please do remember that it's not the worst thing that could happen to you.As an example if you are jobless, be thankful to the destiny.Because it's not that bad.Still you are a healthy person and there are people in this world who are ready to pay any cost to be healthy.Count your blessings at that moment. If you start counting them you'll be surprised and your sorrows would be kicked away.

Everything do happen for a reason.

The second thing you can do is think that it happened for a reason.It worked for me in numerous times.Once I lost a relationship which I valued a lot.I hit the bottom of the emotions and I was broken from inside but couldn't afford showing it to the outside world because of my ego or whatever it is.But it showed.After suffering all the way eventually I read the magic words somewhere. "Everything happens for a reason". And after few months, surprisingly I found that it's true which means I saw a side which I've never seen before and understood that if she was with me I could have suffer more than this.

Everything do happen for a reason and sooner or later it will become visible.It's just a matter of time.So have a little faith when when you are down.

 You've seen streams which flows in comfortable ways.And also you've seen streams with lots of bends and rocks covering its way.Which picture has carved into deep in your mind? Yeah.But you know it's the hard way to flow.That's life.When you face and got over the troubles, it adds more colors to the picture of your life.So do not let little ants devour your  piece of cake called happiness. 

 I was thinking about writing a post on something very rare on this earth. "Gratitude" . That's how we call it.I'm sure that we all have experiences about this.But most of them are incidents which we didn't get any gratitude though we deserved it.Am I correct?

Yeah.That's how things work.You can call it " God's will" if you like.As human beings we can't live without each others help.You have to agree with me for that.But the thing is after someone helping us we must pay him/her some gratitude.Actually no one can arrest you or shoot you for not paying any feelings for that.But as human beings we have an obligation.

Sometimes you might have heard that people say " they won't remember anything you do for them.There's no point of bothering to help them" or some dialogues like that.( my mom also has said the things like that) Do we expect any gratitude for a help that we do to some one? Ask from your heart. Some of you will say "yes" whilst others are saying "no". But though we say "no" sometimes our heart says "yes". Do we really need to expect any gratitude?

Once Jesus Christ healed ten lepers as you all know.But there was only one person had stopped to thank him. So who are we? Do we aspire anything more than Jesus Christ got ?

A criminal defense attorney Samuel Leibowitz  saved 78 people from sitting on the electric chair. But how many of them had sent him at least a Christmas card ? Answer is 0 .

I hope you all have heard about Andrew Carnegie.It was a real "rags to riches" story.He was born to a poor Scottish family that immigrated to the United States and later he became a powerful businessman and a leading force in the American Steel industry.And he was also a great philanthropist who believed that the wealthy had an obligation to give back to the society.In his last will he had given a million dollars to his relations. But if he got up from his sepulcher after sometime, he would have a chance to get an heart attack by hearing his relations curses. Do you know the reason? He had donated 365 million dollars for charity allowances.What a grateful society?

That's how few of famous people got gratitude from the society.But does that say we do not help somebody? Of course not. We must do our best to help somebody when a chance comes. But if we expect any feeling from them in return it's better not to help them than to be broken hearted after helping out.We don't need to think about ourselves as fools when we have to face an ungratefulness. You can't hide anything for natural law. It sees all through. Nature will fill our hearts with glee which will never fade when it see our good deeds. If you believe in god, in gods mansion your name will be carved as indelible.

We can't change people. Especially their natures.Only what we can do is wetting their hearts with our love. We will love them from bottom of our hearts.So that we will be able to help them without getting hurt from ungratefulness.


N.B- This post is inspired by an incident which I had to face recently which was painful.But I  I'm not writing it here in case I embarrass the person who caused it.I'm just writing this to express my feelings and thoughts and to get a relief.

Photo is by BidWiya 

Have you ever thought that you deserve a happier life than this? Yes.You are. Just follow children's top secrets to make your life a happier one. Well. Don't laugh at me for saying that. But have you ever seen a child who wears a worrying face over a long time? I too haven't .I am wondering about their behaviors. May be they are the happiest creatures on the planet. Why don't they worry about tings like we do? Why don't they suffer from stress or depression? How can they be always seen with those curious, smiling faces?

Here are the top-secrets which I have found among children whilst in quest of spices we need to add up to the soup of life to get best essence out of it.


1.They know how to get happiness out even from simplest things.

Most of us are striving to find happiness in our day to day life and we spend lot of bucks on that. But children are specialists of finding happiness from simple things. You'll say " They are just kids. What do they know about the life?" It's true that they are just kids but at leas they know that it's something to feel( not to suffer). As we grow older, we start to struggle with the life and our own problems. Our desires become complicated and we are not satisfied anymore from simple things like moon light or a slab of chocolate. See this picture.

I took this photo of my little cousin brother while we were on a journey. Can you see the smile on his face? Can you see his happiness? It was just for two packets of biscuits that he loved. He has neither much hopes nor burning desires. Why we can't feel the joy of sunrise, music of singing birds or clouds in the clear blue sky?

Have you ever honked the horn grumpily and cursed to yourself and other people and the government whilst stuck in a traffic jam? Well if the answer is 'Yes' , this post is just for you.There are sometimes that we can do nothing against the situation we face.

There's a little story.Once a man was walking across a jungle for some reason and suddenly he came across a tiger which went infuriated by seeing him.So the tiger jumped on him but barely missed him under salivary jaws.Peaceful walk turned into a run for the sake of life and tiger was right behind snarling ferociously.Poor fellow was at his maximum speed and cold sweat was running through his back created by the fatality of the moment.His foot slipped suddenly and in the next moment he was falling into something bit dark inside.He hit something and he reached for it from a single hand.It was a root of a tree which were leaned towards the pit and now he was swinging somewhat below from the opening of the pit.

So what about the tiger?Unfortunately it was kinda positive thinker.Though somewhat disappointed, it didn't leave him.It was on the verge of the pit grumbling from his throat. (maybe it was scolding at his destiny for taking his chances away from him like most of us do :) ) But still it hadn't given up hopes about the party.It was trying to clench and pull him up by using his stalwart paw.

And by that moment man's eyes were getting use to the darkness inside.It was an abandoned well which was out of water and he looked down intending to jump there. Oh Gosh!  What was there? A huge snake which were coiling to attack him as soon as he landed.He bit the tongue through his clenched teeth and tightened the grip and now he was shimmering from the utmost fear. Blood circulation was raising under his veins.And then he saw something which left his hair straightened.Two mice had started to countdown his last seconds on earth by starting to cut that root away.And there's a bee hive in a lair of a tree and some honey was leaking through the root he was hanging on.

One death was ready to give him a warm welcome by its sharp teeth,on the verge of the well and the other death was summoning him from down by hissings.So can you guess the thing he did?Did he blame god saying " WTF? Can't you see what's happening to me?". No.He said nothing like that.Instead of that what he did was licking the honey which were leaking and said " Hmm....Yummy....".

Well that's the end of the story.Whether you like it or not it's the story of all of us in real life. We can do nothing against some of the disasters we are facing.But still we can taste our life.Needless to worry about anything because our worries can't change things.Would that tiger go away if that man cried?But still we can't give up our hopes.Who knows what will happen in the future.What if that tiger tries to jump on him and ends up with crash with the snake which would have caused  to death of both of them?So the man will be able to climb up to his life again.No one can predict future.

So this story gives us a lesson for a happier life.We don't need to worry about uncontrollable things which happen in our life.Because it's a waste of time which remains us to enjoy and feel the life.

Don't blame at anything when you stuck in a traffic jam.Try to listen to a song or just open up the cubby hole and grab some chocolates.See how simple it is?

If our souls are strong enough to live right in this moment despite all the storms which rumbling from distance we will live a better life, a happier life someone will dream of.

This post is inspired by a preaching by Ajan Brahmawanso Thera.

photo credit : Ferdinand